One thing I have learned about dating is… people get inside their heads. It´s easy to. You can go crazy, thinking about all the ways something can work, could not work, and when you might break up. It can be neurotic and exhausting. I have done this. I get it.

The thing I am learning now, is that real life is what new connections are made from.

I am not going to change my real life for someone. I won´t create fiction trying to fit puzzle pieces together.

My basic personality, my habits. Sure you could change a few things that you already thought were important to change, but that´s not the point.

The point is to observe and be honest. The point is to see how people fit together without trying too hard.

It does not need to be hard. It does not need to be complicated. For the first time, I am dating someone new and for the first time I am not wrapped in the future. I am working, traveling, doing my normal stuff, and I am getting to know a new person. He is doing the same.

It is not constructing or rearranging reality. It is just getting to know someone in the context of reality, a person with a messy life.