Maturity, as painful as it is, is actually a decision. Perhaps it is a miserable choice, because immaturity and maturity both hurt at first. They both involve grief. What you might occasionally remember in this fun series of impossible moments is that you might be doing something for a bigger not smaller reason. Perhaps that helps. I am pretty sure my favorite people tend to be the ones who have accepted that pain and grief as part of human history (obviously) and who can speak clearly about where something hurts right now.

There are people who actively allow grief to walk with them are easier for me connect with that those who resist it. People who own the painful conversation. People who tell me their daily annoyances, their They are my new favorite conversation partners in a more incarnated life, one that is lived in conversation with both the miracle of being here, and the ongoing grief that accompanies being a person. Perhaps it is this ongoing

From my current and previously favorite David Whyte:

Maturity calls us to risk ourselves as much as immaturity, but for a bigger picture, a larger horizon; for a powerfully generous outward incarnation of our inward qualities and not for gains that make us smaller, even in the winning.